We find ourselves stuck in a rut, struggling to survive and make our way through. While we all have a single goal i.e. living a fulfilling and a happy life, what is it that stops us from doing that? Is there something we need to change? Maybe, our mindset?
From ‘I can handle it all by myself’ to ‘Can you help me?’ ?
“Why would I pay for that when I can do it on my own”
We are pretty smart, we learn to do things on our own, we watch all the Youtube videos possible and read all the informative articles and free ebooks to make our way through. But there will be times when we need somebody to show us the right direction and stimulate our personal and professional growth.
Steve Jobs had a very interesting take on the power of asking:
“Now, I’ve actually always found something to be very true, which is most people don’t get those experiences because they never ask. I’ve never found anybody who didn’t want to help me when I’ve asked them for help.
I’ve never found anyone who’s said no or hung up the phone when I called-I just asked. And when people ask me, I try to be as responsive, to pay that debt of gratitude back. Most people never pick up the phone and call, most people never ask. And that’s what separates, sometimes, the people that do things from the people that just dream about them. “
Ask questions to people/mentors/friends around you, or you can even randomly connect with someone and ask their help.
Take Action Now:
TapChief : It’s a platform get advice directly from industry experts. They take out time from their busy schedule and get on call with you to help you out with whatever advice you need. Isn’t that amazing?
“The attitude of ‘learning on the way, cracking every problem yourself’ is a great one to have. But it’s also important to self-introspect and call for external help when you need it. It can be a smarter and time-saving choice.” Shashank Murali, founder Tap Chief.
LinkedIn: The easiest way to connect with experts is through LinkedIn and here are some general tips you must know before you head over and ask. Read: 5 Rules for Asking Your LinkedIn Connections for Help
Networking Events(Meetupgroups/Facebook groups) /Co-working space events: Keep a check at all the co-working spaces or networking events happening around you. After the event is over they have a Q/A session and it’s the best way to get answer to your doubts or questions. Post that you are open to personally approach people around you to discuss solutions.
Quora: It’s a great way to get expert advice on just about anything and the most easiest way too. If you are too shy, ask someone else to do it for you but ask right away!
People Around: There is so much to learn from everyone around you. When you speak to a successful person, you’d notice that they have a lot to say about their failures. They aren’t insecure about it or don’t shy away from it. Yes, you might not be where you thought you would be and it’s okay. Don’t beat yourself up for it.
Go out meet people, talk to them about your failure. Who knows they might tell you something you didn’t know about.
In Steve Jobs words – “You gotta act. And you’ve gotta be willing to fail, you gotta be ready to crash and burn, with people on the phone, with starting a company, with whatever. If you’re afraid of failing, you won’t get very far.”
From ‘buying attractive things from online Sunday Bazaar’ to ‘having a growth mindset’
We all end up being frugal when it comes to investing in ourselves. We might spend few extra bucks on online Sunday bazaar, buying stuff we never really need but we might think twice before spending the same amount improving our skills, networking with important people or buying value-adding ebooks and courses or even travelling.
A shift in mindset can lead you to the path of growth. It’s a belief that you can be anyone who you want to be, all you need to do is work towards it. Neuroscience shows that our brains are very malleable and we can change our ability to perform.
Take Action Now:
Some resources I can vouch for and are on my list too:
influence: The Psychology of Persuasion (consumer psychology)
Excuses Bygone (changing life-long thought patterns)
Hooked (creating habit forming products)
Neil Patel (Internet marketing)
Passion Planner (a planner for all your jumbled up thoughts)
Do that one thing that you have wanted to do, but fear has been stopping you from doing it.
Be it making that video for your social media, going up to your cranky colleague and telling her the truth about her behavior or setting up realistic targets. Do it.
From ‘being obsessed with your work’ to ‘being detached and fulfilled’
A lot of us might be deeply involved in the work we do and even emotionally attached to it. It’s like our child or our girlfriend/boyfriend (depends).
So if you are someone who is always sitting in front of their laptops, sleeping , eating and drinking work-you are not passionate but simply obsessed. With so many successful people saying that you need to love what you do and work will no longer be work, it has become a constant conundrum of the modern start-up culture.
We come back home and open our laptops. We wake up and check our mails. Over dinner parties we discuss office gossips or potential business ideas. But we must know and understand that we are much more than the work we do. It does occupy a large part of our lives but it shouldn’t be the only close definition of us. And not only that when we are too attached to our work we make decisions based on our emotions completely which may go wrong.
Wayne Dyer rightly says –
“When you become the observer, you detach yourself from the outcome. You remove all that inner turbulence, anguish, fear, and anxiety, and you then replace it with the calmness of a detached observer. The minute you sense that calmness, the solution is at hand. You’re not operating from adrenaline or fear or angst.
When you face a crisis or deadline from the perspective that you only have so much time and “have to hurry,” you become one more person who brings stress and anxiety to the problem.
It’s in the taming of the ego that you find the sacred in your life. You find greater strength when you can stop being so focused on you and your bottom line and start reaching out to others.”
Here’s the full article, if this thought interests you : http://www.powerattunements.com/article50.html
Take Action Now:
- Look around. Stop. Breathe.
- Appreciate the small things around you today – the new song you heard or the food you ate (you can think of better or more)
- Find a new hobby, something that you thought is not your cup of tea- reading a fiction book, painting, visiting an art gallery or singing a song.
From ‘Scarcity Mindset’ to ‘Abundance Mindset’
The right money mindset
From ‘Oh I’ll never be able to afford this’ or ‘ I am not making enough money‘ or ‘It’s been two years and I still haven’t achieved anything’ to appreciating what you have. And you will end up having more. Have the abundance mentality and start to be grateful for what you have. Take a minute to think of people who have helped you reach wherever you are today and thank them for it. You’ve only moved forward.
And don’t forget a very important person on that appreciation list- yourself. Every now and then appreciate and pamper yourself. You deserve it and if you want more, you’ll probably need to believe that you deserve it. Do you?
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